Is this ever going to be implemented? and/or backported to 3.7!?

It is still intended to create a "unified" solution for TLS (https://www.python.org/dev/peps/pep-0543/). IMHO, until then we could well live with the "not unified, but usable" solution.

I ended up writing my own C API implementation that takes the ssl context ptr address, that way i can just import it as a module

I have replied to you on BPO twenty minutes after you have opened the bug in 2018, https://bugs.python.org/issue32882#msg312408

tl;dr the improve is a good idea in general, but the API should be more generic and not require the user to know curve names. Therefore I proposed to use a list of curve names, preferable from an enum of supported curve names.

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I have replied to you on BPO twenty minutes after you have opened the bug in 2018, https://bugs.python.org/issue32882#msg312408

tl;dr the improve is a good idea in general, but the API should be more generic and not require the user to know curve names. Therefore I proposed to use a list of curve names, preferable from an enum of supported curve names.

I disagree, the user should also have the ability to set curves as they see fit and not be locked down by restrictions like they currently are.

Can't we have both? have a default "preferable" list... but also give the functionality to manipulate OpenSSL with the functionality that is already available in OpensSSL and give power back to the user.

Just my 2 cents.

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